ListenWhen I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel the way I feel, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to DO something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
LISTEN- All I ask is that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.
And I can do for myself, I am not helpless, maybe just discouraged and faltering.
When you do something for me that I can do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as simple fact that I do FEEL what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and I can get about the buisness of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the ansers are obvious.
So, please listen and hear what I'm saying and feeling.
-Author Unknown
I got this from the training I did today to become a NICU Parent Support Volunteer. Ironically, it was perfect for me and conveyed exactly how I feel.